We are to trust in God for everything. Not in our own hearts or thoughts.
Pray about every decision.
Proverbs 3:5-6 ” Trust in the LORD with all thine heart; and lean not unto thine own understanding. In all thy ways acknowledge him, and he shall direct thy paths.”
If we are always mindful to pray and seek God’s will in everything, then He will lead us in the right path and we will not make mistakes.
Why can’t we just trust in our own heart?
We are never to lean on our own understanding, and think that we can handle things ourselves, because our own hearts can deceive us and lead us the wrong way.
Jeremiah 17:9 “The heart is deceitful above all things, and desperately wicked: who can know it?”
Our own understanding can lead us to death.
Proverbs 16:25 “There is a way that seemeth right unto a man, but the end thereof are the ways of death.”
The Fear of God is the beginning of wisdom and knowledge.
Psalms 111:10 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: a good understanding have all they that do his commandments: his praise endureth for ever.”
Proverbs 1:7 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of knowledge: but fools despise wisdom and instruction.”
Proverbs 9:10 “The fear of the LORD is the beginning of wisdom: and the knowledge of the holy is understanding.”
God wants us to ask Him for wisdom in everything. Nothing is too small or too big.
James 1:5-8 “If any of you lack wisdom, let him ask of God, that giveth to all men liberally, and upbraideth not; and it shall be given him.” But let him ask in faith, nothing wavering. For he that wavereth is like a wave of the sea driven with the wind and tossed. For let not that man think that he shall receive any thing of the Lord. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways.”
God’s wisdom will always lead you right.
James 3:17 “But the wisdom that is from above is first pure, then peaceable, gentle, and easy to be intreated, full of mercy and good fruits, without partiality, and without hypocrisy.”
Trust in God for all your answers and you will live a life without regrets.
The Life Boat Scenario
I’m sure that just about everyone has heard of the lifeboat scenario, where there is a sinking ship and there are 5 people, but there is only 1 lifeboat and it will only hold 4 people. At this point the schools and society will tell you that a decision must be made as to whom will get left behind and die. The truth is, no one has to be left behind to die.
The Proper Solution
These 5 people can work together to get something that will float like a crate, box, board, or barrel etc., then tie it to the lifeboat with a rope, then take the strongest person in the group and tie them to the crate, etc. Now you have 4 people in the lifeboat and the fifth and strongest person is being towed behind the boat making it to where no one was left behind to die and everyone has a chance of surviving. Also, if possible, you can have someone in the boat trade out with the person being towed from time to time increasing the chances of everyone’s survival.
Proverbs 24:10-12 “If thou faint in the day of adversity, thy strength is small. If thou forbear to deliver them that are drawn unto death, and those that are ready to be slain; If thou sayest, Behold, we knew it not; doth not he that pondereth the heart consider it? and he that keepeth thy soul, doth not he know it? and shall not he render to every man according to his works?”
In every emergency, we should always look for a way to save everyone.
God commands us to use edifying speech.
The Bible says in Romans 15:2 “Let every one of us please his neighbour for his good to edification.”
To edify means to “build up” (see the Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance with Greek and Hebrew Dictionaries #s 3619, 3624, and 1430 in the Greek dictionary).
We are not to hurt people’s feelings through joking.
The Bible also says in Ephesians 5:1-7 “Be ye therefore followers of God, as dear children; And walk in love, as Christ also hath loved us, and hath given himself for us an offering and a sacrifice to God for a sweetsmelling savour. But fornication, and all uncleanness, or covetousness, let it not be once named among you, as becometh saints; Neither filthiness, nor foolish talking, nor jesting, which are not convenient: but rather giving of thanks. For this ye know, that no whoremonger, nor unclean person, nor covetous man, who is an idolater, hath any inheritance in the kingdom of Christ and of God. Let no man deceive you with vain words: for because of these things cometh the wrath of God upon the children of disobedience. Be not ye therefore partakers with them.”
Right in the midst of a list of terrible sins in Ephesians 5:1-7, God deals with some sins of the tongue, and right in the midst of these sins of the tongue, God says that jesting (teasing, bullying, joking, picking on people, etc) is a sin. And then God says later that His wrath falls on people for these sins!
As Christians we are to love others, not tease them and hurt their feelings.
Some Christians have a wrong belief that people must be thick skinned, and that it is immature for a Christian to get their feelings hurt.
They get this by not understanding the proper definition of the word “offend” in Psalms 119:165 “Great peace have they which love thy law: and nothing shall offend them.”
This verse does not mean that a strong Christian will not get their feelings hurt. The word offend in this verse means “cause to sin.” (see the Strong’s Exhaustive Concordance with Greek and Hebrew Dictionaries #s 4383, and 3782 in the Hebrew dictionary).
This verse simply means that a strong, mature Christian will never turn away from God for any reason.
The truth is, it is not immature to get your feelings hurt, it is immature, and a sin, to tease and bully someone and hurt their feelings. Even a child knows this!
Our speech should always be wrapped in thankfulness to God, and the purpose of everything we say is to be to edify the person we are speaking too.
Even if we have to correct someone, who is doing wrong, our goal should never be to hurt their feelings, but to build them up by pointing them to a higher relationship with God.
Although when you correct someone, their feelings are usually hurt, because no one likes to be corrected.
The Bible says in Luke 17:3 “Take heed to yourselves: If thy brother trespass against thee, rebuke him; and if he repent, forgive him.”
Sometimes this kind of speech is necessary, but our goal should still be to build them up to a higher relationship with God, not hurt their feelings.
As Ephesians 5:1-7 shows, God takes sins of the tongue very seriously, so we need to always think before we say anything.